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This commit introduces a backoff when failing to dial
peers. It makes everything much faster.

* filtering InterfaceListenAddresses(s) instead
* return error if for loops skip
* large dial timeout

This adds two checks after a successful conn.Dial
* if the remote peer is not who we wanted, close conn
* if the remove peer is outselves, close conn

(the second is redundant, but the codebase may evolve to
end up disabling the first check, so keeping the second
in place helps)

note:
Loopback addresses are actually sent out (they _have to be_,
in cases where there are >1 node in the same machine), so
many times when trying connections, nodes end up dialing
themselves.

The net package is the next to move. It will be massaged
a bit still to fix the Network / "NetworkBackend" conflict.